| Location | Edinburgh |
| Age | 20 years |
| Cause of Death | Road Traffic Collision |
| Date of Birth | 30/07/1986 |
| Date of Death | 02/09/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,592 since 02/02/2008 |
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hi gary is my son who was tragically killed in a car crash, he was driving his friend back to the
barracks after a party, he shouldnt have been driving but the female maryanne whos car it was ,was
so drunk she couldnt walk, gary was being gary and helping his mate ,they stopped the car at tesco
car park for a cuddle so gary took the car for a run so he wasnt being pervy, at this time he was
killed .The so called female didnt even phone me to see if he was home or to see if he was ok ,she
just went on about he every day life . well myself and my daughter dont get to have an everyday life
because of you i hope that you enjoyed yourself we are the ones paying for it , i didnt even get an
apology from her she probably sleeps well at nite i havent for so long now one day i might be able
to forgive her but i doubt it very much . Gary was in the army and died just 18 days before his
passing out parade. He was a very happy man ,always smiling and always playing practical jokes
espesially on me .Gary was one of those people that would just make you laugh he always had a gift
of laughter, gary made a room shine when he walked in , before gary joined the army he was in the
army cadet force as well .H e done 5 years at this then started to train the younger cadets.Gary
loved the army and all about it he was always there to help like the nite they all got locked out of
dalmeny street and him and willie climbed onto the roof to get in and open the door , only thing was
a neighbour phoned the police before they got to th stairs there was police and dogs every where
they thought that they were burgulars. He achieved so much in his short life and made us very proud
of him.Family meant everything to gary especially his big sister linda. Garys dad was diagnosed with
cancer in the november ater he died just 6 weeks later ,unfortunatlly he died in january 2008.We all
miss the two of them very much and love them more everyday .Gary you always made me so proud of
you, and you still make me smile, so god bless you and i will see you again soon take care of dad
for me and always be your sisters guardian angel xxxx mum
hi
hi jock hope that you are looking after the boys . i saw them on tv the other nite and was thinking of you as always im glad i dont have the worry of you being over there even though its what you wanted anyway just want to say hi and i love you loads going to bed now so i will speak to you soon xxxx
hiya
hi my gorgeous son well i done it iv left edinburgh for good and i feel great ,no pressure nobody upsetting me . linda has been out and she likes it to just got to finish decorating but that wont take long .craig says hi to iv got lynne coming to see me as well so look forward to hearing from you cant wait . love you always son xxxx
missing you
hi gary well its been 3 years already and not a day goes by that linda and i dont think about you .i hope you got your balloon on saturday from craig and i . well how iv managed to get here without seeing your gorgeous face and smile i dont know but we have .i miss your lauging and your practical jokes i would give anything for you to play one on me right now .anyway i best go before the tears start again but iv been to the cemetry and gave you my wedding flowers with love .
never a day passes without thinking of you
never a moment without caring for you
if only one moment to hold you and tell you
i love you son even more .
3 Long Years
Well Gary i cant beleive it's been 3 years since you where taken from us,it's been a hard time without you here,i know you are with all the family up there and are watching over us,but i wish we could be together again,miss you and love you very much gary,you always had a knack of making everyone laugh can still see your smiling face and hear your laughter,one day we will all be together again.
Precious forever are memories of you,
Today tomorrow and all life through.
Wherever i am and whatever i do,
I shall always love and remember you,
Silent thought,tears unseen,
Wishing your absence was only a dream.
Sometimes my eyes can see,
The face so sweet to my memory.
Someday i'll clasp you by the hand,
Just over in the better land.
Put your arms around him lord
And when you see him smile,
Tell him he's not forgotten,
But longen for all the while.
To me you where so special,
What more is ther to say?
I only wish with all my heart GARY,
That you were here today.
Will always love and miss you Gary,no matter how many years go by,forever in my heart god bless and will see you again one day.
Love and Hugs
Auntie Carol
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such a lovley guy.
never be forgotten.
i know exacualy how everybody is feeling right now.
its so sad
definatly gone too soon!!!
sweetdreams babe thinking of you & your family xxx
The Pit of Grief
The day my child died, I fell into the pit of grief. My friends watched me struggle through daily life; waiting for the person I once was to arise from the pit, not realizing 'she' is gone forever.
The pit is full of darkness, heartache and despair; it paralyzes your thoughts, movements and ability to ration. The pit leaves you forever changed, unable to surface the person you once were.
Some of my pre-grief friends gather around the top of the pit, waiting for the old me to appear before their eyes, not understanding what’s taking me so long to emerge. After all, in their eyes, I’ve been in the pit for quite sometime. Yet in my eyes, it seems as if I fell in only yesterday.
Not all of my pre-grief friends are gathered around the top of the pit. Some are helping me with the climb out of the darkness. They climb side by side with me from time to time, but mostly they climb ahead of me, waiting patiently at each plateau. Even with these friends I sometimes wonder if they are also waiting for the pre-grief me to magically appear before their eyes.
Then there are the casual acquaintances, you know the ones who say 'Hi, how are you?' when they really don't care or really want to know. These are the people who sigh in relief, that is my child who died and not theirs. You know ... the 'better them, than me' attitude.
My post-grief friends are the ones who climb with me, side by side, inch by inch, out of the pit of grief. They have no way of comparing the pit climbed to the pre-grief person I once was. You see, they started at the bottom of the pit with me. They are able to reassure me when I need reassurance, rest when I need resting, and encourage me to move forward when I don't have the strength. They have no expectations, no memories and no recollection of how I 'should' be. They want me to get better, to smile more often and find joy in life, but they also accepted the person I’ve become. The 'person' who is emerging from the pit.
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